Post 1: A Small Intro
I dreamed of creating a web page where I could write and share some of my unfiltered thoughts. Here it is! There's no schedule or obligation, just a willingness to write whenever I'm able to put into words the blend of ideas and experiences.
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Post 2: Vanished
He was there every day, outside the station, selling the newspaper. His presence became part of the landscape, a constant among the chaos of commuters. But life grew heavy for him, unbearable perhaps. One day, he was gone. Flowers and candles appeared by the lamppost where he once sat. For three weeks, they remained as a quiet tribute, a mark of absence. And then, just as he had, the flowers and candles vanished too. Now, a new man occupies the same spot, with his own silent story waiting to unfold.
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Post 3: Please Stop Asking "How Are You?"
There's something almost mechanical about it. “How are you?” rolls off tongues like a script we've all agreed to follow. And the answer? Always the same. “Good.” “Fine.” Polite lies wrapped in routine. Everyone is always good, everything is always fine. But what if we admitted the truth? That we're tired, unsure, or just... existing? That life isn't always “good” or “fine”? Maybe it's not the question itself that's the problem, but the way we've stripped it of meaning. So, please stop asking “How are you?” unless you really want to know.
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Post 4: Lessons from a Toxic Manager
Sometimes, bad management teaches you more than good leadership ever could. I once had a manager whose approach could only be described as chaotic, dismissive, and demoralizing. A few gems from that time stick with me:
No systems, no organization:
“Cut half of your brain and don’t think ahead. Just focus on what I’m asking you to do.”
No transparency or patience:
Ask three questions? “Calm down, you’re throwing five problems at me at once.”
Forget something? “Do I need to show you the Word document again?”
No care for growth or collaboration:
“Don’t be too curious and get involved. It’s not what I paid you to do.”
“If you think this role is for execution, then this is not the right place for you.”
No trust in her own processes:
Say something is missing? She couldn’t even locate the folders or documents herself.
Deadlines were arbitrary, meetings always started late, and flexibility was a one-way street. Proactivity? Met with silence or, worse, defensiveness.
It’s funny, though. In contrast to that experience, I’ve learned what a good manager would say:
“Ask me as many times as you want, just not more than 10!” (humor helps)
“First care about quality; speed will come with time.”
“Don’t be scared to approach your colleagues for questions or suggestions.”
Every bad experience leaves a mark, but it also leaves a lesson: what not to be.
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